Parenting: These things should not be told to children [TKB Health]

Every parent wishes that their child should not do any wrong thing. When children do such a thing, then parents show their anger on the children in many ways. Sometimes some things said in anger which hit the heart of children. These things spoken by the parents without thinking have an effect on the children mentally. According to experts, parents should not do some things to their children at all. Some of are as follow-

‘Wish you were never born’ –

No matter how angry you are, but do not forget to say to the child that ‘I wish you were never born’. No child wants to hear this from their parents. These things not only hurt your child’s feelings but also hurt their self esteem. This can come to the mind of the child that no one likes him.

‘Hurry or I will leave you here’ –

If you want to go somewhere and you are lying down, then never tell the child to hurry or else we will leave you here and go away. Children do not know the value of time like adults. Such things create a fear of being lost or abandoned in their mind. If you are getting late, then talk about hurrying in some other way.

‘Never do what you are told’ –

If you say these things to your child again and again, then a feeling will come in his mind that he cannot do anything in a right way. It would be better if you say instead that I want you to do this work in this way. Clearly explain to the child whatever you want and even if it is wrong, tell lovingly that it was meant to be done this way.

‘I wish you were like your brother/sister/some specific friend –

No one likes to be compared with others. Children like to be praised for what they have done. This kind of talk will increase the feeling of rivalry in the mind of the child for his/her brother/sister/friends. This thing settles in the mind of the child that he can never be as good as his brother and sister/friends. Remember that every child is different and has his or her own uniqueness.

‘We can’t buy it’ –

If you tell your child that we don’t have money to buy this thing, then he will feel that money can buy every happiness. It will also come in their mind that you are in some kind of financial crisis even if it is not so. Give a valid reason for refusing the child.

If you knowingly or unknowingly say such things to the child, then immediately say sorry and explain that you do not mean to say this. You love them and you will never say such a thing in future. Children expect parents to encourage them in everything they do.